The pandemic has caused couples to spending much more time with their spouses, and it is not as if they have the time to mentally prepare themselves for this new living arrangement. Their partners are their only social contacts. And we know that even the best relationships can also buckle under such situations.
There are couples out there who are coping and doing pretty well. However, others might feel put upon and have their patience stretched to the limit. To help, here are some thoughts to consider if and when things get out of hand, and how to survive and prosper your marriage especially during this pandemic.
1. Give each other some space. However, be sure to make time to connect. It is important to have your own spaces in your home wherein you could work and do your things separately. As much as possible, pick a spot where you can still bump into each other. Make time for each other. Stop whatever each of you is doing and talk over lunch or dinner. You can also spend your time planning for your future travels and adventures online.
2. Be supportive and do not sweat the small stuff. During this pandemic, it cannot be helped for you or your partner to be stressed out, and have random emotional swings. Pay attention to your partner's behavior. Ask them how they are feeling. And if you feel on edge, and your partner is driving you crazy, take a deep breath and relax. Remember that whatever you are going through will all pass. Learn to forgive easily and apologize instantly. Keep in mind that even the simplest gesture of support can make a difference. Share the stress and load of what is happening with each other!
3. Take care of yourself. Try exercising or yoga. This will help reduce stress. It can also improve your mood and strengthen your immune system. Keep yourself connected to your loved ones through phones and/or social media.
4. Have a news-free period. With the stress due to the pandemic, it is important to avoid and discuss news reports an hour or so before bedtime. Instead, dedicate this time for relaxation, and talk about other things. Watch a movie or listen to music. This will help you to be in deep slumber.
5. Do not forget your sex life. Sex can be relaxing and can help reduce stress, not to mention that it lets you feel more connected to one another. On the other hand, some may have a hard time feeling sexual in stressful situations, while some may need sex to release their stress. Keep in mind that it is important for partners to take into account each other's feelings. And if one cannot find their way into intimacy, putting pressure on them will only make it worse.
6. Maintain structure. Plan what your day will look like. Have a schedule for your daily activities. This will provide a sense of normalcy, as well as it will keep you focused on what to do rather than what has happened to you. And because of this, you will feel less stressed, at the same time, you will build a sense of teamwork and togetherness with your partner.
