Grandfather Ashamed of Granddaughter [Heartbroken Mom Already Expected It to Happen]

A white mom confessed her sadness when her father called her saying she is a failure because she has a black daughter. The white grandfather was embarrassed to share to people that he has a black granddaughter.

Reddit user Heykittykitty9132 wrote on the Parenting subreddit that her father called her out of nowhere. He told her that she is both a failure and a great disappointment to the family. Apart from being a single mom, she also has a daughter with a black man. The white grandfather confessed to her that he is ashamed of showing his family or friends pictures of his black granddaughter. He thinks that all people would lose their respect for him because of that.

Mom expected it to happen

The mom shared that she already expected to face the consequences of having a mixed-race daughter. Although, she never thought that her dad would say something like that to her. She knows that her mother also feels the same but will not say that much.

Heykittykitty9132 wrote that she does not want to let her daughter know that her white grandparents have such vile opinions about their black granddaughter. She is scared to think that her daughter would have to hear those words.

Reddit community reacted and shared advice

The Reddit community reacted and shared their advice for the new mom. Many white parents with mixed-race children said that it would be best to cut off ties with their white grandparents. Haleenicole wrote that she is in the exact same situation and she chose to cut almost everyone off. She said that even if it sucks, she does not want to tolerate any stupidity and racism. She said that it is their loss, not hers and her child's.

A white dad told anyone who has never been in their shoes that there is no way for a parent to prepare themselves to see their children experience racial injustice. User whatever-this-means thought that he was ready. He said that even the most open-minded white person has no clue what it has in store for them. His message goes out to all the white people out there who think they know or understand the feeling. To him, it is a whole new world so he tells people to not try to explain stuff to the white mom.

Many people told her that she should cut ties with this shameful white grandfather. User Audrasmama said that she feels sorry for Heykittykitty9132 because her dad is a "complete turd waffle." She said that the good news is that now she knows and she can protect the black granddaughter from the white grandfather. She herself has cut ties with all her extended families. She said that it may be hard at first but it gets easier over time. She added that the black granddaughter deserves to be kept safe from her white grandfather.

Others thought that the mom should keep her relationship with the white grandfather. She should try to teach him to think differently. Ruhaba said that the black granddaughter should get the chance of having his white grandparents in her life. The user told the white mom that she should stand up for herself, but not break their relationship off.

Some mixed-race adults who grew up with racist families shared their thoughts. User danid90210 said that the mom should keep the black granddaughter away from her white grandfather. The user said that he picked up on the micro-aggression from family members. The user shared that the white grandparents loved him, but it felt different than his white counterparts.