The role of aunts and uncles in children's lives is often undervalued. However, it's important to realize that they can play a significant role in their niece or nephew's growth and development. If your brother or sister is expecting a baby or has already welcomed the newest member of their family, you might be wondering how best to fill your new position as aunt or uncle. Here are some ideas for how you can help out your sibling and bond with their kids in a fun and meaningful way.
Be a good role model
We all strive to be the cool aunt or uncle, but make sure that you're a good influence too! Whether it's encouraging good behavior, helping them with school work, giving career advice, or just ensuring that you always keep your promises, you can have a big influence on your niece or nephew's life. This doesn't mean you can't sometimes bend your sibling's rules a little, but don't forget that their kids will be learning from everything you do around them - including your language! Be someone that they can look up to and learn from, and they and your sibling will be sure to thank you.
Listen and provide support
Sometimes kids feel like they can't talk to their parents about certain issues, especially as they get older. As their aunt or uncle, you're in a great position to offer a sympathetic ear without judgment or a shoulder to cry on if they need it. Make the effort to keep in touch with your niece or nephew, even if you live far away. Sending a small gift, or even just a text, is a thoughtful way to let them know you're thinking of them and that you care. In turn, this means they are more likely to open up to you when they need support.
Encourage their interests
Hobbies and interests are an area where aunts and uncles can have a large role to play. Help out your sibling by taking your niece or nephew to dance class, sports practice, or music rehearsals. Come along to their games and performances, and praise their achievements. Suggest some new activities they might like to try, and if you're lucky, it could become a great bonding experience for the two of you. When it comes to birthdays and Christmases, whether you're looking for gifts for 8 year old girls or 14 year old boys, choose something thoughtful that they really want.
Have fun
Whatever you and your niece and nephew do together, have fun with them! Be yourself and make the most out of your time together. Take pictures, share stories (including some about their parents), teach them new skills, visit exciting places together, and make a whole bunch of meaningful memories. Not only will this give your sibling a much-deserved break, but it will also help to strengthen the bond you have with their children - and solidify your position as an important person in their lives no matter how old they are.
