When a lady finds out she's pregnant, it's up to her when to share that news, or at least, it should be. However, family members criticized a new mother for a selfish childbirth announcement for posting her child's birth on Facebook before telling them directly.
"We just told [our] parents and siblings when [the] kid was born, and we asked them to keep the news to themselves until we were ready to share," she explained. "Over the weekend, my father's sister E called my parents many times. Instead of lying, they decided to ignore their mobile, assuming she was looking for an update."
On Sunday morning, we planned to announce the birth on Facebook. We both come from large families, so we thought this would be the most convenient way to inform all at once. E wrote me minutes later, saying she was so hurt that she had to find out via Facebook because that's not how a family can find out. She didn't inquire about the kid's or my well-being.
But E wasn't the only one who was irritated by the Facebook announcement.
"I also received an email from dad's brother F about how I was ungrateful for my family and had profoundly hurt him and his sisters," the mother wrote. "By telling them on Facebook that I didn't consider them close relatives, I was 'showing them where they stand.'
She turned to Reddit's "Am I the Asshole" thread for assistance. She wanted to tell her parents and siblings when she gave birth. The rest of the world heard about the news thanks to Facebook (FB). Some of her aunts and uncles, on the other hand, felt betrayed because she didn't directly inform them of the news.
Another unfortunate story was TikTok @momma121521, who didn't get the chance to tell people on her timeline because her "toxic" mother-in-law told everyone about her pregnancy when she explicitly asked her not to.
When is the right time to announce your pregnancy?
Receiving your first positive pregnancy test can be one of the most rewarding moments of your life. You may want to announce it to the entire world. But when is the right time to tell your partner you're expecting?
Many expecting mothers put off telling their family and friends about their pregnancy until the end of the first trimester, around week 13, and there are many reasons why people wait until this time to tell others their good news.
The most important factor in your decision should be what makes you feel the most at ease. So, when you tell people you're pregnant is entirely up to you. You've most likely already told your partner (if not, do clue him or her in before you breathe a word to anyone else). Get your partner's opinion on when you can tell people you're pregnant and develop a strategy together.
Start by informing only close family members or friends who can keep the news a secret. They will be willing to spread the word, but make it clear that this information is classified and that they can't tell anyone unless you permit them.
When it comes to colleagues, use caution—the boss should be the first to hear.
Share your secret with a stranger if you're particularly proud to be pregnant and are dying to tell someone right now.
