Parents tend to stress or fret about things that don't matter as much. An article in Parenting.com says that the impulse to excessively worry about the small or minute details over kids' lives, and losing sight of what is called “the big Picture” is a common problem for parents.
To help focus on what really matters, faith-based website Patheos outlined some of the things that kids will remember (or think about) their parents for.
The times you made them feel safe and secure (or the times you didn't)
More than just installing security cameras and downloading safety apps into your kid's mobile phone, a child will always remember how you made them feel safe. It could be the safety of being held in your arms after a nightmare or a traumatic experience, or how you protected them when in danger.
On the other side, as parents with a temper, you could be the one striking fear into their hearts and minds, and your kids will also remember that too.
Your Undivided Attention
“Kids measure love primarily by our attentiveness to them,” the Patheos article said. Kids usually ask for their parents' time for almost everything, like asking to open a bottle of ketchup or showing off a dance move. Whatever it is, your kids will remember the time you spent with them and made them feel special.
Do take some time off from whatever you are doing, and spend it with your child.
The Way you Treated your Spouse
Kids form their idea of love based largely on how their parents treat each other, and so parents who put their marriage first will teach their kids more than what they can by just being a 'parent.'
“But you have to realize that children need to know that their parents love not only them, but each other,” Focus On The Family Canada wrote. “Their sense of security grows as they see parents loving each other.”
Your Words
What are the words that your kids hear you say? Patheos explained that a child's heart is like cement and impressions made early in their lives will stick to them, hardening over time. They'll base their identity, capacity, and self-worth largely on what you say they are.
Family Traditions
Althougn there's more fun in surprises and spontaneity, kids will always remember that “spaghetti night” or that “weekend movie marathon.” They'll remember the way you celebrate special days. Give some effort into making family traditions that your kids will love, and will pass to their kids someday.
