Modern day parents are said to be spending more time with their children than parents back in the 60's. This is a great improvement because it would certainly create a family with children and parents who have a good relationship towards each other. But behind this good side of modern parenting, there is also the opposite side that most parents don't see.
Based on a study published by Liana Sayer and her team, mothers only spend 36 minutes of their time with their kids back in 1965, which already includes teaching and playing with them. It went up to 129 minutes back in 1998. This is the same observation they had with fathers. It simply shows that parents these days, especially the ones considered as millennials, are more caring and hands-on when it comes to dealing with their children.
It all sounds like it is a really good thing, but what most parents neglect to notice are the downsides of it. In an article published by The Huffington Post, the negative side of modern parenting is the fact that parents have no time to take care of themselves. All their energy and focus were all given to their children that they tend to neglect the importance of self-care and sometimes even self-love.
Parents these days are always working for the welfare of their kids that even during their free time, they still spend it for them like taking them to soccer practices, buying them stuff at the mall and the list goes on. It is very rare that they get to have a time just to relax, pursue a hobby or pamper themselves. In a ustudy created by Melissa Milkie, Kei Nomaguchi and Kathleen Denny, this kind of parenting won't even help the children eventually. Parents who are way too involved with their children's lives won't help them grow individually and it won't encourage them to make wise decisions on their own.
Parents these days should be mindful of these dangers and see to it that they are having enough time for themselves as well.
