When parents break up, the people who will be hit the most are the kids. Many children even carry that scar inside their heart for years.
That's why it's important to be sensitive of your actions. Know the things that you have to do and those that you should not. To help you with that, here are the mistakes, which most parents commit -- causing to mess an important piece of your child's life.
1. Making your child the messenger.
"Too many parents attempt to communicate through their children," said M. Gary Neuman, a family and divorce expert. "This causes undue emotional stress on them and forces them to negotiate a situation their own parents could not handle," he added.
So if you need to talk to your partner about anything, no matter how important that is, never let your kids be your messenger; instead, meet him personally. If you're hurt or can't stand seeing your partner face to face then call him through your cell phone, send him an email or message him through your social media account, as noted by WebMD.
2. Putting your children in the position where they have to choose.
The process of divorce is already stressing, so be sure not to make it even harder for your kid/s. According to Families, putting a kid in this situation would only make them feel guilty, angry, resentful and sad.
3. Failing to assure your children that what is happening isn't their fault.
Most of the kids blame themselves for what is happening to their family. So, unless you tell them otherwise, they tend to carry that negative feeling until it becomes an enormous emotional burden in their heart.
The experiences your children will face every day will be the biggest factor that will contribute to their physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual growth. So make sure to always provide them with love, security and compassion they need especially at times as this. That will help them be calm despite the storm and big waves your family is facing now.
