Children are like sponges. They pick up on everything they see and hear, and they can learn something simply by listening and observing.
It's important to remember that some topics can be confusing, upsetting, or just too grown-up for young minds.
In this article, we list five things that adults should try to avoid discussing around children. Choosing to avoid certain subjects can help create a positive, safe space for kids to grow.
1. Their Own Bodies or Other People's Bodies
Talking about adult bodies or other people's bodies in front of kids can lead to misunderstandings or make them feel uncomfortable. Kids are still learning to respect their own bodies, and discussions like this can make them feel confused about what is normal or appropriate.
Also, note that it's not just negative comments about bodies that adults should avoid discussing around kids. Praise about another person's body weight or shape can make kids concerned about their appearance.
2. Comparison to Siblings
Comparing one child to another can be hurtful. When children hear that they're being measured against someone else, they might feel that they aren't good enough or that they need to compete for attention. This can foster unhealthy competition between your children and lead to increased conflict.
Instead of comparing, focus on each child's unique qualities. This helps them build confidence and feel loved for who they are.
3. Financial Problems
Talking about money worries in front of kids can make them feel anxious. Children may not fully understand adult money issues, but they can pick up on the stress. They can also form their own conclusions and immediately assume the worst.
That said, don't keep them completely in the dark about your financial situation. Just make sure to offer clear and concise explanations. Also, reassure them that there are systems in place to manage the budget.
4. Alcohol or Drug Use
Kids can easily misunderstand discussions about alcohol or drugs. Frequent discussions about alcohol or drug use can glorify the substances and set the foundation for curiosity later in life.
5. Criticisms About Other Parents
Lastly, avoid speaking negatively or bad-mouthing another parent or caregiver in front of your children. Kids may feel conflicted about who to trust or start thinking it's okay to judge others. Being respectful and kind teaches children to respect others, even if adults don't always agree.
