Building close relationships with our children while managing work responsibilities can feel challenging. Between meetings, deadlines, and busy schedules, finding quality time to connect with our kids often takes a back seat.
The good news is that creating strong bonds doesn't require huge amounts of time - it's about making the most of the moments we have together. Here are five practical ways working parents can strengthen their relationships with their children, using simple daily opportunities to create lasting connections.
1. Have open-ended conversations during commutes
Use car rides to and from school or activities as a chance to chat with your kids. Ask specific questions like "What made you laugh today?" or "Who did you play with at recess?" instead of the standard "How was your day?". When children are sitting beside you without direct eye contact, they often feel more comfortable opening up about their thoughts and feelings.
2. Have family meals at least once a week
Try to eat together as a family at least once a week with phones and devices turned off. Family meals provide regular opportunities to catch up, share stories, and maintain connections. Children who eat regularly with their families tend to have better self-esteem and stronger family bonds.
3. Participate in family activities
Get involved in activities your children enjoy, whether it's playing their favorite video games, doing arts and crafts, or having dance parties in the living room. When parents participate in their children's interests, it shows that they value what matters to them.
4. Designate a family time or day each week
Set aside specific times for family bonding, like "Special Time," where each child gets 15-20 minutes of undivided attention to do an activity of their choice. This creates predictable moments of connection that children can look forward to.
5. Be intentional and give your full attention
When spending time with your children, be fully present. Turn off your phone, maintain eye contact, and show genuine interest in what they're saying. Small gestures like getting down to their eye level during conversations or hugging them can make a big difference in helping them feel valued and heard.
