It's a common thing that some people will blame it to parents when they see a child with a bad behavior that can't seem to connect with others. The reason behind it is the idea how the child was raised by their parents adapting to those bad habits and wrong doings. Some parents become worried when they see bad mannered kids playing with their child because they know that children have strong influence to each other.
As reported by BBC news, every parent is responsible for their child's behavioral development. In schools, teachers and educators are the ones helping the children to learn proper decorum but parents should provide enough parental support to make it happen.
A study by Gwen Dewar, Ph.D., about how parenting can affect peer relationships of children was published in Parenting Science page. It tells how parents can help children develop good quality of friendship by encouraging children to share, obey, compromise, converse and take control of emotions.
The way a child selects friends or build peer relationship is also influenced by the family's experiences. One proof is the study about children's secure attachments to parents. Secure attachment is when a child has a strong confidence on their parent's or caregiver's given support.
The findings of this study have emphasized that those children who had secure attachments with their parents are more likely to make close bonds with friends at age 10. For those kids that are older but not over 12, who considers their parents as the best option for them to provide assistance or help are reported to have good quality friendships.
Another proof is the study from the University of Minnesota where it involved 78 people. These people were tracked since they were infants until they reach the mid-20s. Those infants that were securely attached to their parents are said to be more socially competent according to their elementary school teachers. These kids are likely to have good quality friendships at the age of 16.
The studies have shown that parental support is a big factor on how children develop close friendship. Those children that are encouraged to talk openly in family conversations are socially competent too. These are strong theoretical grounds for thinking that the way of parenting and family experience really has a big influence to children's behavioral development.
