It's pretty common for parents to not fully understand their children. Even though parent and offspring share the same genes to begin with, the obstacle of learning your child's behavior is always on the top of their list of main concerns in child rearing. Your three year old daughter lied about throwing her toys in the basket or your teenage boy accidentally fell off of his chair claiming that he's too excited to leave for school to see his school crush. As a mother or a father you know these are all lies and now this makes you wonder what's going on inside their heads and why they need to make up such stories.
Releasing your Parental Intelligence will help you know your children well. By changing your ways and attitude towards parenting, it can assist you to figure out the true meaning of the messages your kids are sending you.
A psychoanalyst, Laurie Hollman, Ph.D specializing in infant-parent, child, adolescent, and adult psychotherapy, released a book called "Unlocking Parental Intelligence: Finding Meaning in Your Child's Behavior" available at leading online shops like Amazon, help parents understand their children.
Here's an excerpt from the book highlighting the Five essential ways on how to unlock your parental IQ.
Stepping Back
This is just the same with think first before you react. Don't blow your steam right away if you think your kid has done something wrong.
Self-Reflecting
Try to interpret your attitude towards your child's misconduct. This is like a blast from the past. Think of a scenario where you had a never-ending fight with your mom for not behaving well.
Understanding Your Child's Mind
This is critical for parents. If you stay cool and approach your child in a subtle manner, your kid will be relaxed too and tell you what happened and why he/she did such misbehavior or the real reason behind the action.
Understanding Your Child's Development
You must not assume that your child is acting the way you want the to act. You don't scold them for the things that they cannot do. Remember your kids have their own mind. So, you need to understand as a child they are just acting their age.
Problem Solving
After doing the steps 1 to 4, it is now time to solve the problem. After learning your kid's inner self you can now join him or her in finding the right solution to the problem.
Learning how to release your parental intelligence will allow you to have a healthier parent and child relationship.
