After marriage, it is not always happily ever after for mail order brides and their husbands. In fact, multiple stories have circulated about men finding things to have gotten worse after purchasing their mail order brides. Daily Mail reported that Western men who purchased brides from Russia and the Philippines found lack of love with their brides. The publication revealed that a social media thread in Reddit as the source for the comments about the issues concerning mail order brides. To date, the thread has produced 10,000 comments from men.
The comments may or may not surprise readers. The following are some of the comments generated from the discussion:
"[She] spoke about sex the same way she spoke about housework," wrote one, while another confessed, "I could always tell she was uncomfortable. It seemed like she was just doing a job."
"Since a large amount of these foreign brides do not speak English, a person must hire a translator for phone and other forms of correspondence," one user explained. "When a man becomes serious about a few women, he will want to purchase the girl's address to send letters and gifts."
"Addresses usually will cost between $10 [£6.50] and $15 [£9.80}. A translator will also be needed for these letters which will normally add another $10 to $15 a letter," he shared.
A daughter of a groom who married a mail order bride disclosed, "My father brought my mum at an auction in Thailand a LONG time ago, it's pretty weird and he was kinda a creepy guy so basically what you'd expect."
One thing's for sure though - most men who married mail order brides have encountered social challenges in their lives which pushed them to look for wives from faraway places in an effort to find love and acceptance.
In fact, a participant in the discussion thread posted a message stating the situation. "I mean there's a reason these kinds of guys end up getting mail-ordered brides. Sometimes they are just super awkward, other times they are total d-bags," the user said.
Meanwhile, Uproxx.com revealed that a participant in the Reddit discussion divulged that his disability brought him to his mail order wife. Redditor maleorder02271983 shared, "I'm 35 have mild-moderate cerebral palsy, not bad enough to need a walking apparatus."
"Anyways when I was about 27 I started looking. It took me like a year and a half and about 22k or so to do it. I have a decent job and make about 60k a year," he continued. "She has lived in the US prior and her student visa got denied she was sent back home for 4 years. So she spoke good English and was educated."
He added, "I told her that I was looking for a best friend type relationship when we started talking online and through Skype. That I didn't want her to stay with me if that wasn't what she wanted. We've been together 5-6 years now. It is a couple's relationship. She is very out of my league."
The Independent UK reported that another user likened the mail order bride marriage to sleeping with a gold digger - only the latter appears to offer better rewards. The user shared on the Reddit discussion thread, "You could liken it to a gold digger but it was much worse. At least with a gold digger, it isn't painfully obvious, and you might actually convince yourself she likes some aspect of you."
