Communication is one of the foundations of a good and strong relationship. However, parents who have teenagers often find it challenging to communicate with their non-communicative young sons or daughters.
Conversations with teenagers can either be a form of bonding or simply chats. Communications can also be about organizing something or discussing an arrangement for the day. Here are the do's and don'ts of communicating with teens.
First of all, parents should always be available to listen to their teenage sons or daughters, according to ABC. Granted, adults are busy with their lives or their career, still they should find time to sit down with their teen and just communicate.
This should be done without being intrusive or pushy because it would only push teens to fence themselves in. Moms and dads should show an interest in teenagers' activities or passion so the youngsters will be encouraged to talk about what's going on in their lives.
The questions parents ask teenagers should be curious. Do not load them queries that could push them to be defensive, as advised by Empowering Parents. Adults should show that they have faith in the teen's capacity to make sound decisions on his/her own.
If there's a conflict between a parent and a teen, it's important to not do anything until both parties have calmed down. When emotions have finally petered out, that's the time when the adult should sit down with the teenager and talk to him/her.
Another thing parents should remember to do is giving teenagers positive feedback and encouragement. People respond to these things better than punishment or reprimands, according to Miranda Ashby, center manager for child care agency of Headspace. Ashby added that parents "need to be respectful, because what you put out you get back."
It's also ironic when parents preach about something that they don't follow themselves. Moms and dads should lead by example, which means they should communicate openly so teenagers would be encouraged to do it, too.
Setting and sticking to clear boundaries can get through teenagers as well. Boundaries such as curfews should be consistent and fair for all young people in the house.
Parents and caregivers should also pay attention to teenagers' mental health. Going through difficult emotions is normal, but some young people struggle with it and lower the quality of their life in the process. It's up to adults to encourage teens to seek professional help when they need it and be supportive along the way.
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