The real reason why someone behaves badly because he is afraid of failure - not being good enough, or loss - fear of missing something, if not well treated or be dominated. These are the fears that make us feel and our children irascible, angry and at times also mean.
During the teen years, children experience more fear and insecurity than they have ever. They also go through a natural process of starting to move away from the family in order to eventually become independent adults. These two factors together can achieve a considerable level of sulky rage and rude behavior.
According to WRAL, anger, frustration and negativity appearing as a misdirected anger toward the family are actually a repressed fear. When anger and fear are locked, they are not accepted or are driven away can be suppressed, creating an explosive and exaggerated behavior.
Like happiness and sadness, frustration and anger are emotions that require recognition and time. Parents must recognize the feelings that appear in their older children, listen to them and respect their right to be experiencing them and feel how they feel rather than just correct. They should be allowed to be angry, frightened and hot-headed at times.
However, an orientation is needed to teach teens to process and express their anger in acceptable ways. We must understand the enormous boiling emotions that are living at the time and focus more on the connection that correction. According to Empowering Parents, repressed rage can manifest in teenagers through the following three behaviors — negation, withdrawal and moodiness.
Often, at this stage, parents see that the boys abandon their responsibilities, rejecting people and turning away from connecting with their families. That repressed anger can placate initiating dialogue, making teenagers space out so that they can analyze emotions.
Denial is a result of not heeding what they are feeling and not give time to feel anger and process the real reason. If parents have not been a safe place above and gave sermons instead of listening, they may need to apologize and may take time for their teen to trust them enough to open. But parents can fix it with respect, time and commitment.
