In a child's perspective, the dissolution of a family is indeed traumatizing. Since holidays are coming, it is a huge problem for broken families to give their children the ideal joyful and happy scenario during these seasons.
Make sure your kids feel the essence of holidays. Holiday seasons are crucial for developing your relationship with your children. The way they feel are embedded in their minds and is influential for their growth. Dr. Gordon gave some tips on co-parenting during the Holidays on PR Newswire.
- Establish a habit of allotting time together with your kids and make every moment feel like you're an average family.
- If you have some mixed emotions, tell yourself that it's perfectly fine and let everyone believe what they want to feel as well.
- Ask your children what they want to do the most.
- Don't rush things.
- If you want your children to have a great mood, then start it with yourself.
- Design activities that will give you the opportunity to laugh together. Always smile even when stressed.
- Avoid awkwardness and bitterness with your former partner by surprising them or by being extra kind.
- Use I-messages instead of starting up the blame game. Stop the trash talk and criticisms because towards each parent. Children often apply what they hear to themselves.
- Don't restrict your children from seeing their other parent. During holidays they will crave for their presence.
- Arrange your schedule as early as possible. Make sure both of you are available on the said dates. In case your children contradict to your planned activities be ready for changes.
- Talk to your ex about the gifts you are giving to avoid matching gifts. Avoid competition on who has better presents. Consider gifts that are less expensive but will make a great impact.
- Calm your nerves when you feel like you are about to get into an argument.
- Most importantly, don't restrict your children from associating and loving their other parent. Let them feel free to connect with them without keeping it a secret from you as cited on Satellite Press Releases.
