Parents value nothing more than their children. Their entire world revolves around their kids but in the process of becoming parents to their second child, things start to tickle and become more challenging.
A lot has been said about how the birth order of a child is affecting their psychological development and adult relationships. While the younger siblings are often well-liked, realizing that the firstborn is no less, is quite an eye opener.
Scarymommy describes the ways the older child behaves as soon as a little sibling enters the house. Children only develop insecurities when they feel that they are no longer the center of attention and when they know that a sibling is going to be treated with the affection, which was only entitled to them, they react.
It is not advisable to leave a baby unsupervised alone with their elder sister or brother because as seen, they for sure would try to hurt them and the little sibling won't be able to even lift a finger. It's quite understandable that the older child feels hate and anger towards the newborn and to get their place back, sometimes they try to act like they are little again just to get their parent's attention.
In the process, a firstborn's behavior may become different and strange, which can also be infuriating to parents at times. Psychologists, on the other hand, say that birth order helps a lot in building personalities of the children, according to PsychCentral.
Due to undivided attention of parents, a firstborn child is more of a goal achiever and have a strong and independent sense of themselves while middle children are more courteous and always trying to keep peace and balance. The youngest children are fun loving, careless and high spirited as they had the least uninterrupted attention and focus of their parents and also because parents treat them with more leniency.
Interestingly, birth order is indeed one of the variables that impact a child's behavior, personality and intelligence. But by understanding one's role in a family system could help understand the connection or relationship between a family and behavior and understanding the curse of being a firstborn child could help ease the long-lasting effects of the birth order on children's lives.
