Newlyweds need to be realistic enough to acknowledge that their will be changes and these will be big, drastic and even scary. Are all the sleepless nights, the wads of dirty diapers, the negative bank accounts, and the weight gain for women worth it?
The Los Angeles Times reported that Americans are having less kids because they fear their marriages will crumble under all the stress, according to NEWSOK. However, this fact is not because the kids have gotten in the way but they let child-raising become an excuse to procrastinate on their spousal duties.
Parents chips in good advice for husbands and wives with this marriage concern. Whether they have a date night each week or simply put the baby to bed early so that they can have adult time, it's vital to keep the flame burning between the husband and wife. It's not only important for the relationship but in the long run, being happy together is good for a child.
Having children has made mothers and fathers happier, too. "The Case for Marriage: Why Married People Are Happier, Healthier and Better Off Financially" coauthor Linda Waite said, "Raising kids forces [parents] to look beyond themselves, which is very good for their mental well-being," as per Families news.
With that said, children can indeed streghten a relationship between the husband and wife. So, here are some reasons why children positively affect the union of husband and wife:
First, children unites spouses. Parents need to join forces in order to rear well-rounded, loving kids. Spouses can't keep on arguing and ignoring each other and expect good results. When they work together, the best parenting methods are established, schedules are thoroughly organized and most significantly, the couple grows stronger through the obstacles they've hurdled together.
Anothe reason is little lives provide inspiration. Looking into the young ones they've created together will come in handy, especially during those days when spouses can't stand each other. Remembering who they were and how far they've come will inspire parents to dig deep and choose to work things through hand-in-hand.
Lastly, efficiency — couples having two children or more are fueled to provide for their brood and waste no time making sure things get done productively. In addition, having more than one offspring in the right time allows for mothers and fathers to delegate responsibilities to the older sibling. Thereby, cutting off on workload and making sure the youngest one is well-taken care of.
There are always two sides to a story and the outcome pretty much depends on how parents write their family book. Spouses, sons and daughters are all blessings that can be viewed as inspiration to make the relationship work. So, make "the best thing" that happened to you the "best thing" that also happened to your marriage.
