Many mothers get worried about having sex after giving birth. Their concern about sex stems from the results of giving birth such as exhaustion, postpartum pain, strange hormonal changes, weight gain and even postpartum depression.
PARENTS compiled a list of some tips to make sex better after the baby comes out. Hopefully, these tips can help give spark to mothers' sex lives after childbirth.
1. Do not rush
Women who gave birth should be patient with their sex lives. They are usually recommended to wait for at least six weeks before resuming sex with their partners. It can be a case-to-case basis so consulting a doctor is still recommended.
2. Accepting your changes
Women who just gave birth usually have breasts that leak milk, scars, excess fats and weight gain. Instead of complaining about these changes, women are encouraged to be proud of them because they were able to sacrifice a lot just to deliver their baby. Most men do not mind these changes because they are just too happy to have a baby, they are proud of their partners' courage and strength, and they are too excited to resume their sex lives.
3. Use plenty of lubricant
"Breastfeeding can reduce estrogen, thus leading to vaginal dryness," Rachel Needle, Psy.D. explained to PARENTS. It is only temporary, so make sure to purchase lots of lube.
4. Do not focus too much on your sex life
There is more to a woman's relationship with her partner than their sex life. If a woman is not yet comfortable to resume her sex life or does not want to do it too frequently, partners can focus on the different aspects of their relationship. Having regular date nights, regular conversations, cuddling and taking care of the baby together are important bonding activities for couples after giving birth.
5. Use birth control
One of the most important things to remember about having sex after giving birth is to use effective birth control methods. If you get pregnant again right after giving birth, then your increasing libido will be reduced immediately. "Since your ability to conceive can return as soon as a few weeks after birth, don't wait until after the baby is born to decide what contraception to use," PARENTING advised.
