When you are a parent of a child with special needs, there are days where there's just so much pressure on how you going to raise your kid. One of those challenges is that, even family members think you're doing a better job when the kid you are raising steps up to the level of their expectation.
This is one of the challenges that Heather Kirn Lanier, contributor to The Mighty has experienced and so honestly expressed how much she tried her very best to raise her daughter Fiona well. According to Lanier, he daughter is undergoing speech therapy and there are many other things that Fiona is trying to overcome in life just so she can is able to learn to live with her disability and live life the way most typical children do.
For Heather Lanier, it's not that she does not have any goals for her child to achieve more but sometimes it's just too much to bear. The therapist would come visit her at their house and tends to be more of a consultant than therapist. It seems to her that they are teaching her more how to be a therapist than being a mom.
Her plead, is if it is possible for her to be just a mom instead of her child's therapist because in all actuality, according to Heather,she can't remember all the things the therapist has told her to do. All she observes and retains are the handwritten list of therapeutic tasks that she should do to her baby and she is mostly left crying. She wants to be a mother and not a therapist.
All she wants is to love her child, with no mutual exclusivity, but just being able to excercise full acceptance of what her child is capable of doing, not what the therapist thinks her Fiona should be achieving.
