For years, experts have discuss the different parenting styles, from its benefits to its impact on raising a child. But today, another parenting style is believed to have a negative effect on child development and it is pushover parenting.
What Exactly Is Pushover Parenting?
According to More, pushover parenting has become a common trend nowadays. This is a type of parenting style where parents can't say no to a child's demands but pushover parents reportedly don't want to spoil their children instead, they want to spend their limited family time without arguments.
Does Pushover Parenting Really Works?
According to Leah McFall of Stuff, the strict way of parenting children only works for French parents as they see kids as "rational beings" that can comprehend that "some behaviors have no practical value. The modern way of parenting that works for McFall, on the other hand, is pushover parenting.
Unfortunately, pushover parenting has a "ripple effect." In fact, Colorado-based child and family psychologist Bill Maier is alarmed over the burgeoning practice of pushover parenting.
"These parents can't or won't put limits on their children's behavior," Maier said, as per Huffington Post. "Even behavior that's unhealthy, dangerous or destructive. These parents are so concerned with being liked by their kids that they give in to their children's every whim."
Maier also added that even if pushover parents "do a great job in raising responsible kids," their children's lives will still be "influenced by the trend." Maier also stressed the fact that pushover parents should remember that their kids will also be surrounded with children raised by pushover parents such as "bullies, dishonest classmates, or abusive boyfriends or girlfriends."
The Root Causes Of Pushover Parenting
Perhaps, you are wondering what made parents into pushovers? Well, Family.ie cited four major reasons why parents practice pushover parenting and these are because of the wrong thinking of parents that they don't have a right to "impose their beliefs" to their kids, the guilt of being "physically and emotionally unavailable" to children, parents reject copycat or reactive parenting and lastly, divorce or single parenting turn parents to pushovers as they fight for the position of being the "favorite parent."
Pushover Parenting Can Turn An Adorable Toddler To Out-Of-Control Teen
Even though this approach may work for some parents, pushover parenting can send a wrong message to children, suggesting "the world revolves around them" and their parents will "bail them out of any situation." And as they grow older, these ideas will get worse and bigger problems will arise like having an out-of-control teenager.
How To Stop Pushover Parenting
Despite the negative effects of pushover parenting, parents don't have to fret since there are ways to regain your parental control. As reported by Urban Family, parents should accept their role as a parent and not a friend. Pushover parents should also set limits and a routine, as well as know not to always give into their demands.
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