Toddlers feel intensely about everything and they simply aren't capable enough to control fiery emotions, like sadness, at that age. Tantrums are quite common for toddlers and how to counter them is a skill any parent can master.
Simple management of the little kid's everyday life would reduce his tantrums considerably. The main reason behind the madness is the feeling of vulnerability and helplessness in basic things like hunger and tiredness. So if these matters are taken care of beforehand - and a kid can't be expected to manage these on his own - things would become much easier.
Proper planning for the toddler's schedule can help prevent most of the tantrums. Feeding should be done in advance before the hunger pang attacks the toddler while napping and bedtimes should be fixed. Resting times should be enforced coupled with peaceful quiet times without any media interruptions.
Empowering Parents suggests invest adequate amount of time with the toddler and don't let any sort of errands come in between that particular interval. Presentation of love, positive attention and reconnection after a long period of separation is important. All this would make the toddler less whiny and more satisfied.
It might be surprising for most people that acknowledging a child's anger can kill a lethal tantrum in its tracks. Listening what he wants before setting boundaries immediately would make him feel less powerless and it would become easier to convince.
Winning the fight is not a very wise step because it's useless and yields nothing. According to Aha Parenting, it's okay to let the child think that he has a say so that he feels less annoyed and irritated and handling becomes a piece of cake.
Make the toddler feel safe and protected. He would probably cry, stay with him in that moment instead of bashing and ignoring. Show him love, which would make it less challenging for him to let go of his welled up emotions, and he'd act and feel much better.
Standing in the toddler's feet would make it a lot more effortless to understand him. A parent should just imagine what he might feel if he were drowning in exhaustion and rage. He would want someone else with him for support, obviously. In the same way a toddler needs a trusted companion that can understand him in such perilous times! - no matter how unimportant they may seem.
