The genuine and first feelings without previous experiences is called "Beginner's mind" in Buddhist teachings. The term refers to a state in which eagerness, optimism, and openness are the key elements in studying a subject.
The similar concept is shared in Huffington Post but with a different view. Meryl Davids Landau, the author of the book "Enlightened Parenting, " describes a new parenting style, a spiritual impulse, similar to that of a mother's first experiences of a new born child.
The author shares a near to death experience, and the impact of that incident stressed the importance of the eagerness in love and feelings. According to Meryl, the shoshin or beginner's mind approach is very helpful in parenting. Treating your child every day like it's their first day, and give them that primary care.
When a child comes back from school, ask as if it were their first day, what did they learn, how was play. Celebrate their every success like it's their first. When they seem disappointed, console them like the first time when a toy was broken, and they came crying with despair and shock.
Give them time, the time that people give to their babies when they're in their earliest days. Listen to their problems, give them new ways to think, hold their hands, give them a hug and make them feel loved, cherished. Put positive thoughts in their minds, give them options to broaden their minds.
With all that for children, one thing is essential for self, relive. Parents must try things which may not seem like a good idea but help them feel like a kid again, enjoy rides, lay on the grass, sing on picnics.
Meryl Davids book "enlightened parenting " is a great help in parenting and is available on Amazon. It is a good idea to gift this book to parents who always seem tired and exhausted with their kids. The new approach might change their views.
