Children of divorced couples are able to adjust and cope better from their situation if their parents maintain a good relationship. A study has shown that ex-partners who are able to set their differences aside can focus on raising their children well. They are also better motivated to look out for the best interest of the kids because they bicker less.
Divorce is a stressful time for spouses and the children. The presence of anger and distress could spring conflicts that would make this the most difficult period for the family.
But a study, which was published in the journal Family Relations, reiterates that negativity in a divorce impacts the children's lives even in their later years. Thus, some children of divorce have a hard time coping and it can reflect in the way they treat their own relationships as adults.
Stability is vital to children, whether their parents are divorced or not. The experts suggest that divorced couples can continue to provide for this if they agree on the same goals for the children.
If divorced parents have a good relationship or remain on the same team instead of turning on each other, they can avoid the pitfalls of parental alienation. The children need to see and feel that even if their parents live separately, they still can rely on both of them.
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The children of divorce who have quality relationships with each of the parent tend to have fewer behavioral issues. On the other hand, several studies have shown that young kids exposed to alienating behaviors, even in subtle ways, can have learning challenges, or develop physical conditions, or have worrying behavioral problems, according to the North Dakota Law Review.
When children of divorce grow up under a firm umbrella of love and stability from both parents, they will also have an easier time transitioning when their mom or dad become involved with new partners. Thus, divorcing parents should have a goal to recover or at least properly manage the pain of the marriage that has ended. Only then can they begin fostering a good environment for their children.
