Women tend to be more concerned about their marriages than their husbands. They filled their shelves with books on how to be a perfect wife and how to survive difficult marriage. However, they are trying too much that it is actually causing loneliness, which can lead to dissatisfaction with their marriage.
As a result, wives become a nagging shrew -- blaming their husbands for doing little and for not solving the marital problems. They are so bothered by it that some women are even willing to risk their families -- just to escape from the feeling of abandonment.
Whatever reason you have for experiencing loneliness in your married life, Wendy Walsh, Ph.D., relationship expert and author of The 30-Day Love Detox said rather than blaming your other half for it and just quit of being a good wife, you should address the issue instead of starting to fix it. And here's how you start:
Talk to your husband about your true feelings.
Being a non-confrontational is definitely a big NO-NO as it can only make things worse. If you think that your husband doesn't appreciate you anymore and would rather watch TV than spend time with you, then talk to him. Tell him what you truly feels about it.
Opening to your husband about your true feelings is definitely hard, but always remember, he is the best person to talk to. Eventually, he will understand it and both of you can start something to fix the problem.
Don't rely on your spouse for everything.
Don't expect that your husband will fill all the roles: being your best buddy, best provider, best co-parent, domestic partner and a lover. Expecting too much from him can only disappoint you. Instead of relying on your husband to fulfill all the duties, talk to him about it and find out how you can divide the responsibilities as a partner. Likewise, always see to it that you make time for each other.
Doing these, without a doubt, is harder than you think. I practically know because I experienced the same thing and now am thankful that I was able to survive and deal with it. But it is much better to start fixing the problem than be sorry for not trying to make things work.
So, what do you think makes a woman a good wife? Hit the comment section below!
