Worried that toddler tantrums might ruin the most wonderful time of the year with the whole family? A parenting expert and licensed psychologist shares three big things that parents should never do to manage the meltdowns.
Dr. Randy Cale cites that many parents today make these three mistakes in dealing with toddler tantrums. But he says that these are only short and quick fixes when parents should be doing long-term solutions, according to Troy Record. Below are what parents must never do.
In some cases, parents often try to redirect or distract a toddler's attention in order to avoid the tantrum. Yet doing so doesn't address the bigger issue -- that the child should be able to handle frustrations better; that they have to develop soothing and coping mechanisms as they grow up.
Instead of redirecting a toddler who is about to have a meltdown, parents must anticipate and come prepared. According to The Scientific Parent, it is better to set the child up for a day of success. So, before leaving for that Christmas dinner at the grandparents, the toddler should be well-rested or had her snack. If a child throws tantrums because she's bored, then have stuff that will keep her occupied.
Today's parents usually soothe a toddler tantrum with calming voices. Dr. Randy Cale said that it is what most parenting websites or bloggers promote, perhaps because it is the most appealing currently. But it also sets up the parents for more meltdowns and the expert said that the better way to address the drama is to let the tantrums pass.
According to Dr. Sears, ignoring a tantrum sends the message to a child that she cannot always get what she wants. But parents, however, must also be able to read the child's tantrums properly before using this tactic.
If she's actually frustrated and disappointed and she's not just acting out because she wants her cousin's Christmas present, then it would be best to calm her down by talking. Otherwise, if it's all drama, it's better to let the child have it all out.
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Finally, the worst mistake a parent can make is by giving in to the toddler tantrums. Parents go soft and just let the child have it so that everyone can have their peace and fun this holiday. But doing so can never be good for the child long term. Giving in could turn toddlers into entitled teenagers, which can become a bigger problem.
It might be tough to handle toddler tantrums this holiday. It takes time and patience. Yet parents should always keep in mind that they need to stand their ground to raise a child who will be able to handle her emotions well.
